I grew up as the most shy, nerdy, awkward Asian kid you could imagine. I also went to an all-boys high school. I remember one time, we had a “co-ed” day which meant we would spend the day interacting with the girls school. One of the other students in my class told me to go talk to one of the girls. The thought of doing so immediately made my face flush, my knees shake and my heart palpitate furiously. I panickedly stammered out some incoherent excuse and I ran away.

So all the way into adulthood I had no dating life. I just ignored that aspect of my life and instead studied and worked hard as was expected growing up in an Asian family. Socialising or dating was strongly discouraged. “Study hard, then get a good job and the girls will naturally want you” was the message that was drilled into me the whole time by my parents.

After years of unsuccessfully trying to distract myself from my loneliness, I eventually realised that this couldn’t go on. My dream girl was not going to just magically fall out of the sky into my lap, especially when I couldn’t even think of talking to a girl without becoming a trembling nonsensical mess of nerves. So I decided to dedicate myself to improving my social and dating skills. Since then, I have spent 5+ years drastically improving my confidence, including travelling all around the world to 35+ countries, forging incredible moments and connections with a wide variety of amazing women along the way.

While that may sound like a lot of fun (and in a lot of ways it was), it was also a difficult process; I had to confront my insecurities and inner demons, put in countless hours of practice, while narrowly avoiding the dangerous addictive loop that becoming successful with women can bring which I have seen other guys unfortunately get trapped by. Only by doing so was I able to become the version of myself that was able to ultimately find my ideal girlfriend.

If you want to undergo a similar transformation, I offer a basic initial consultation call for us to get together and discuss exactly what your personalised needs are when it comes to improving your dating life to find your ideal girlfriend. If we determine that my coaching is the right fit for you, we can proceed to organise a customised package of weekly calls to guide you.